Couples, Core Wounding, Complexes

Often in the life of a couple, a conflict appears that has deeper roots than the present situation. Sometimes we’re not able to truly listen or hear our partner’s point of view. This is often due to us being unaware in a particular moment that our partner’s actions, words, or views are resonating with a core wounding of our own personal story. In these circumstances, we are living life symbolically through the past rather than actually living life in the present as it is.
What I’m referring to here as our core wounding is our deepest and most common internal vulnerability that has deep origins or origins from our earliest years and has conditioned us to react quite automatically. It’s sometimes referred to as a complex in the language of psychoanalytic theory or theories of Jungian archetypal depth psychology.